STOYA: Open Party Scandal

Update 02.26.2009
This open party issue on 24 Oras, Yahoo and GMANEWS.TV is familiar 🙂 Sorry I haven’t seen it in TV but just read the article via Yahoo Messenger Featured Article.

Some definitions first: An open party is a party organized by a class or organization from a school (usually biggie name private schools) and invitations are posted via the internet. Its “open” meaning anybody can attend provided that they pay for the tickets. The party may be likened to the good old soiree and I also heard this is the “IN” thing for Manila’s upper class high school and college students. It is also my assumption that this is a good business (for the party and events organizers) since I heard there is this one open party that supposedly for 300 people only but lo and behold, some 800 young people bought the tickets, attended the gig and it was a big hit 🙂 . Drinks are offered in the open party. Parties like that can go wild. It can go ugly too.

Below is an open letter of a mother of a high school student who got beaten up in this so called open party. I am not taking sides here, but I feel it’s my social responsibility to inform parents and other people (bloggers, readers, students, etc.) on the dangers that these open parties can bring to them and their loved ones. I reserve the last part of my post for my personal comments and the reason I tagged it as scandal.

I am quoting the open letter from Ms. Noemi’s article. Read on:

February 9, 2009

Dear Ateneo parents, students and STOYA members,

Three months back, I found out that an “OPEN PARTY” organized by students of the Assumption was booked at our village clubhouse. In this event, the venue meant for 300 pax was packed with as many as 800, due to the zealousness of its organizers to maximize their earnings. Many of the attendees had no recourse but to spill over to the parking area.

That night, a nasty brawl occurred right outside the venue, and the security incident report outlined the destruction caused to the clubhouse facilities, the sight of inebriated teenagers holding bottles of liquor roaming the streets, and the discovery of used condoms on the park grounds and alleys the following day. (You can verify this yourself.)

We were on an out of town trip when all these happened and I could only imagine the chaos that went on.
Last January 16, 2009 my son Marcel Piezas, a 2nd year Ateneo student, pleaded with me to allow him to attend an “OPEN PARTY” organized by 3rd year Poveda High School students at Greenmeadows. I warned him about the untoward incidents in our village but due to his persistent pleas, reassurances, acceptance of certain conditions (e.g. curfew) coupled with guilt trips of being labeled an outcast once denied of participation, I succumbed to his appeal.

That night at around half past eleven, I found myself praying for Marcel’s protection, possibly owing to vague intuition, not knowing what was going just a stone’s throw away.

At around 11:30 p.m., after having danced with around three other girls, Marcel asked for a dance with Ms. A (name withheld). The dance was uneventful except for the part where she asked Marcel if she could take a picture of them, which my son agreed to.
Immediately after the dance, Marcel thanked her, and excused himself since his 12 midnight curfew was fast approaching. He and his classmate B (name withheld) proceeded to exit the dance hall to meet four other classmates who were already at the parking area.
Three meters from the exit, two teen-aged boys came out of the hall together with Ms. A, the girl Marcel just danced with, blaringly asking, “Sino ang nangbastos sa pinsan ko? Kayo ba? Kayo ba?”

It seems that, Ms. A pointed out my son to the two boys, wilfully or otherwise, prompting them to pull his shoulder and start punching him on the head, which caused a laceration and multiple hematomas.

The two boys shouted invectives at Marcel (e.g. “Sabihin mo sa nanay mo, malansa ang kaniyang puk_”, “pu__ ina mo, gusto mo mamatay?” etc.) and repeatedly slapped him.

After a while, the group of three had swelled to five. They were joined by other boys (names withheld). A few seconds more, and the crowd had expanded to around twenty, arm in arm, they formed a circle around Marcel. They continued to punch, slap, insult and spit at my defenceless boy. One of them even ordered him to kneel down and apologize, which he did, even if he knew he was not guilty of anything, if only to stop the beating. After his apology, he was punched hard on the mouth, causing a cut on the lower lip, and three front teeth to turn mobile.
There were big bodied bouncers hired during the party, and some village guards manning the gates. Neither of them lifted a finger to help my son. All they uttered was “Tama na yan.” The lone defender of Marcel was a school mate, Boy B (name withheld).
At the expense of enduring a few blows himself, he pleaded with the boys and tried to convince them that they have the wrong guy, and that Marcel was a good boy, incapable of the accusation they were throwing at him.

The mauling miraculously stopped for around 15 seconds (probably around the same time I was praying for him) which gave another brave classmate the chance to grab then bloody Marcel by the arm and pull him out of the circle of tormentors. They ran for it and left in a car with their other classmates who were too stunned and traumatized themselves.

Minutes after escaping the assailants, Marcel continued receiving phone calls through his mobile phone,
wherein he was harassed and taunted. The calls and text have persisted until a week ago.
After our preliminary investigation, we discovered that the aggressors are members of TGF or “The Good Fraternity”, a loose group of high school students (boys and a few girls) who frequent the party scene, SOME of whom are reputed to be bullies, war freaks, alcoholics, possibly drug users, and carriers of deadly weapons such as guns, knives, tasers, etc.

Apparently, some of them use this strategy of bullying helpless-looking boys in the guise of being gallant men saving a damsel in distress for having been “disrespected”.

The exact same scenario by the same people happened to a fellow Atenean at a different party a few weeks earlier. Many other boys from other schools have experienced beating from the same group for the most senseless reason as having been ogled at or having flexed biceps and triceps to the annoyance of the bullies.

What happened to Marcel was a nightmare not only to him but to ourselves as parents. My husband who is working in Canada can only cry in helplessness at not having been around to defend or at the very least comfort him.

I cannot sleep soundly knowing that our sons and daughters are prone to being swallowed by profligacy. Did you parents know that kids nowadays dance “spooning” style? Did you know that there are mobile bars for rent that serve “mocktails” or full-fledged cocktails and beer in bubble containers to our young teen-agers unmindful of the alcohol prohibition for minors (ask Sober Club , Elation , Party Fuel , Club Fishbone , Booze, Event Shaker , On the Rocks , etc.).. I even heard that open parties are now being used by pushers as their market for mood altering wares.
I didn’t even know that the Greenmeadows party that Marcel attended was entitled “Lust”, which is one of a series of seven parties named after the seven deadly sins. I was shocked at having found out the organizers’ preference for their party names.

I have vowed to make this an advocacy. We are filing a complaint with the authorities about the matter, not only to seek justice for my son, but to stop this culture of violence and immorality among the youth.

I would have wanted to treat this as privately and as quietly as I can but recent developments have forced me to do otherwise. I came across this blog site which made my stomach turn at seeing how insensitive, frivolous, and unprincipled the authors of this entry and its supporters are.
Log on and read for yourselves.
(EDIT: Blog is currently locked but you can download here)

Rumors are spreading like wildfire and the ugly misinformation is causing yet another trauma on my son. Some stories are going around about his being too drunk to have had control of himself, thus the
molestation. To correct the defamation being spread, and to give these STOYA boys who have a lot of growing up to do a piece of my mind, allow me categorically say that:

1) My son NEVER molested anyone and we can prove this to the hilt. The bloggers didn’t even give him the benefit of the doubt by adding the world “allegedly”. They wrote it as if it were a fact.
Instead of supporting your fellow Atenean, you are pushing him towards the furnace by spreading this lie.

2) My son, who, for one week after the assault, endured nightmares and anxiety attacks over possible retaliatory acts by perceived sympathetic blue blooded members of TGF NEVER squealed on any one to the APSA. He bore his psychological injuries which far outweighed the physical wounds with dignity and bravery. He never even brought up the incident with his football coach who benched him during two crucial games for having missed a week’s practice clueless that Marcel was waiting for the contusions on his head to heal. For all I know, he was also possibly avoiding aggressive tussling, inevitable in the sport, which might stir fearsome memories. He felt so down but didn’t want his coach to think he was making excuses for his absences.

3) I never complained verbally, or in writing, to APSA regarding what happened to my son knowing that STOYA per se, is not the enemy. I simply wrote a letter of excuse for Marcel’s two-day absence while he was recovering from the trauma.

4) I never accused STOYA of harassment when they approached Marcel in an effort to convince me to tell Mr. Dennis Dator of their innocence regarding the mauling. I simply felt that it is futile to make that appointment since I never filed a complaint against them in the first place.

5) To say that “it can only take ONE person to destroy a party. All he/she needs to do is to tell his/her parents to call up the school, name names and say drugs or what not has been going around” reeks of a distorted sense of values. It’s as if parties are the end all and be all of life’s existence. Never mind if a person gets hurt… the show must go on! Besides, I never did what they accuse me of doing.

6) Do you honestly think that this line “The police can always be ordered to go to a party to end it” is preventive or is it a curative solution to a done disaster which only takes a few minutes to happen? Hunky bouncers and security guards were around when Marcel was beaten up. What good did they do?

7) From STOYA: “Pu**a, everyday people DIE due to far more worse (sic) incidents than mere fist fights and now people start making this such a HUGE deal since it happened to someone close to them?”
Response: What if the blow on Marcel’s head were a tad stronger than they were causing irreversible brain damage? Would that be big deal enough to warrant your attention?

8.) From STOYA: “don’t call us insensitive and immoral for promoting alcohol under the age of 18. You’ve never had a shot of vodka or a cold glass of beer? Don’t be a hypocrite and lie. It’s part of high school”
Response: The law is the law and it was created for a reason, and it is meant to be adhered to, otherwise suffer penalties.

9) “Also, It’s the parents’ choice to allow their children to go and do these things so if you have a problem with parties, don’t allow your children”
Response: Parents unwittingly allow their children to attend these parties without the knowledge of the imminent dangers that abound in such parties, thus, my cause of letting it be known. No matter how well we try to raise our children, they sometimes make the wrong, stubborn choices and succumb to peer pressure thinking that what is prevalent is “cool”, or is acceptable.

10) STOYA, your entrepreneurial spirit is partly admirable. “Dreams of creating seven parties in 10 months”.
However, if your ventures are money making, may I ask if you give out receipts to your patrons? Do you pay taxes to the BIR? Maybe this is another angle worth looking at.

Dear STOYA boys and supporters,

I hope you broaden your minds a little bit more and see where concerned school authorities and parents are coming from. You, our dear boys are gifts from God entrusted to us for guidance and moulding. Our commitment to our Maker, and to the Giver of life is to lead you back to Him in life eternity. It’s true that life is full of risks, that life is well lived if freedom abounds, and that it is important to stand by what we believe in. But as graduating students of a highly reputable Catholic school for which your parents toil hard to make your enrollment possible, I would have hoped that you had loftier beliefs that you would adamantly fight for. Year in, year out, you learn in CLE that free will has its limitations. As minors your care rests on those who are supposedly more ripe in wisdom. If we can shield you from as much pain, suffering and harm as we can, we will do so by all means because that is an expression of LOVE. You may sulk all you want but take it like a man. Like you all said, you will be adults in a few months time anyway. Start acting like one!

Yours truly,


The links from the open letter may have been stripped when I copied it to my blogpost.
Disclaimer: As I mentioned before on one of my not so famous post, this site happens to be my blog and one of the little privileges I’ve got here is to have my own online social rant space. If you have issues with my post, contact me via my contact page

So my comments:

1. Open Party. This is the first time I heard of this open party thing. I got the text of the open letter from Ms. Noemi of and heard it also from Raven (she said she got it from This was not yet the “IN” thing when I was in high school (oh reminiscing). Oh well things change a lot nowadays but this change is bad IMHO. I hope that school officials, event organizers and government officials (yes I think there is this local city agency in charge of giving out permits for such kind of gatherings) should step up and work together closely to monitor problem and put some remedies if needed

2. Why the Scandal tag? I find the high school kid’s retort to Mrs. Piezas open letter scandalous. I guess he knows that something is wrong but he is still zealously defending it and even passing the blame to others.
Quoting some parts of the reply:

… HOWEVER, it can only take ONE person to destroy a party. All he/she needs to do is to tell his/her parents to call up the school, name names and say drugs or what not has been going around. Also, the police can always be ordered to go to a party to end it. We all know for a fact that it’s illegal to drink at such an age. We’re just disappointed something like this had to happen for something not big at all. Pu**a, everyday people DIE due to far more worse incidents than mere fist fights and now people start making this such a HUGE deal since it happened to someone close to them? Parties have been going on since FOREVER which is precisely why we can’t see why this had to happen NOW. We have no other intention but to have FUN when we host parties so don’t call us insensitive and immoral for promoting alcohol under the age of 18. You’ve never had a shot of vodka or a cold glass of beer? Don’t be a hypocrite and lie. It’s part of high school, face the fact! We are given the CHOICE (hence the name OPEN party) whether to drink or not. Also, It’s the parents’ choice to allow their children to go and do these things so if you have a problem with parties, don’t allow your children. It’s as simple as that! Don’t go around whining and complaining how evil the young adolescents of the Philippine society are today

I admire the passion he put into this…well… how should I call it… “defense”? I guess it’s because of his/her youth and I don’t blame him/her for this.

But in my opinion, his/her reply is a scandal 🙂  hence we now have the STOYA Open Party Scandal

P.S. to the HS-kid: Kindly tell your party mates to dispose condoms properly OK? 😀 EDIT: striked out on 02.18.2009

3. To Parents/Guardians: Be aware of what’s happening around you and your kids. Awareness to the issues is a good start, but please don’t panic and don’t fret or over-react about this issue. Teach the young one to be responsible and they will be responsible… in due time.

4. Maybe this issue is worthy to be placed inside the my p!nay scandal collection. What you think?

Any comments, violent reactions, anything, feel free to leave your comments here (I’m moderating it btw) or drop me a note via my contact page.


  1. Kids will do stupid things. Because after all, they are STILL kids. They already think that they’re old enough to do and say what they want, but what they always forget is that parents, and their elders will always worry and look on disapprovingly because THEY WILL DO STUPID THINGS LIKE THIS.

    So to the punks and cowards who think that they are ‘man’ enough to be held accountable for their actions: Better grow up fast because you seriously have a lot of growing up to do.

    IT IS A BIG DEAL when people are falsely accused and persecuted without being given the benefit of the doubt. Its called a Mob Mentality, and its the kind of thing that uneducated buffoons do. If you are all ‘responsible adolescents’, THEN WHY DIDN’T COOLER HEADS AMONG YOU PREVAIL??? Why beat up a kid who was all by himself, and being ganged up on by a mob?? If you even want to be considered an ‘adult’, then this thought should have crept up to your heads. Reason instead of conviction, is the true measure of a man. Fighting for what you believe is all well and good, but when you’re fighting for an ideal or belief that is so TWISTED and WRONG, it doesn’t make you right or admirable. It makes you ARROGANT and STUPID. It takes a more mature person to be able to say that they made a mistake.

    Yes, parties have been going on forever, but who the hell gave YOU the right to think that you and your BRAT friends can act like adults, drink booze, and do whatever the hell you want, without suffering the repercussions of your actions?? Yes, it is a part of High school to experiment with alcohol, and even drugs. But what makes you think that
    you and your generation are more ‘mature’ and can carry yourselves properly while you’re drunk or stoned??? Everybody becomes drunken fools when they drink, and teenagers become DRUNKEN IDIOTS when they drink. And by the way, IT IS INSENSITIVE AND DOWNRIGHT DUMB of you to think that you can drink, get drunk and do whatever the hell you want…

    I am not bashing on the youth of today. I am merely taking this opportunity to tell you that if you want your elders to trust and respect you, you have to show them that you are WORTHY of that trust and respect. You do have as much right as the next guy to drink a six-pack, smoke cigarettes, and do what you want. But you do have to consider the consequences of your actions. And if you say that you have considered them, then again I ask: HOW CAN YOU POSSIBLY JUSTIFY BEATING UP ANOTHER KID??!!!! WHAT KIND OF LOGIC CAN YOU PULL OUT OF THOSE IDEALISTIC MINDS OF YOUR TO POSSIBLY JUSTIFY A BONE-HEADED ACT LIKE THIS??? I hope you do realize that your Apathy and Naivete’ are things that we, your elders, also had in our brains when we were your age. But please don’t try to quantify the differences of your generation from ours.Because you are all still BONE-HEADED IMMATURE PUNKS, who I hope will outgrow this childish phase and become responsible and morally sound adults.

    A line from an Eddie Garcia movie springs to mind:

    You have gumption for speaking your mind as Animated as you did. But do not confuse BEING PIG-HEADED for HAVING A VALID POINT.

    1. @Fe ann,
      Actually the story you posted is the “retort” that I referred to/quoted in the last part of my post. That is the reason why this is now a scandal for me 🙂

  2. The mom obviously exaggerated that letter. Most of that (except for the beating part) isn`t true. And the one question thats bugging me is.. how di STOYA get here? They completely had NOTHING to do with this. I have no idea why the mother is addressing a letter to STOYA and the “LUST” aka Poveda 3rd year organizers and TGF. It was their party, they beat him up. This letter angers me because innocent HS boys are being dragged into this scandal in which they had completely nothing to do with.

  3. The mom seriously exaggerated the whole thing. Sure, her son got beat up, and that’s sad for him. And it’s disgusting that such a thing even happened.

    But my brother and his friends were right there in that party and saw the whole thing. The Marcel boy WAS NOT by himself, even though he was the only one who got beat up. His friends (sophomores) were right there, watching while he got beat up, too scared to even help him. The Atenean juniors, including my brother, wanted to help, but were waiting for the boy’s friends and batchmates to help first. Well, the some friends they were! That one friend that helped the boy only came up to the beaters by the end of it. WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS ARE THOSE?! In my brother’s words, “Puro angas kasi sila eh. Pero nung nag-awayan na, ayaw tumulong. Takot naman ma-expel.”

    Just because it happened in a Poveda party does not make the school and its students responsible for it. I came from Poveda and we had lots of parties. Some had “incidents” reported but never to this level. I think the issue (no matter how important it is to address it) is being blown way out of proportion. In my kuya’s time in Ateneo, there have been much worse, but everything was dealt with quietly and quickly, instead of this one where the mom is going off on the internet, before she even contacted the school authorities!

    I think the wrong people are being dragged into the this whole issue. People shouldn’t really believe the mom’s letter right away, though some points of it really do show the ugly side of it. Why not try to get the story from people who were actually there?

  4. I’m not condoning anyone’s side, okay? But having been to many parties like this one (but certainly without the mauling) back in the day, I guess it’s just that there are many scenarios that could’ve explained what really happened, and it’s basically the mom’s word vs. the stoya people. People have to find the middle ground and look at all the facts objectively.

  5. @Mara
    See here, I think it’s also important that STOYA got mentioned in the mother’s letter first and foremost because it was in their even that this incident took place. Also, add in the fact that they are underage and are in no legal position to cater alcohol to the other underage youth. Now, I’m not going to be a hypocrite in saying that I didn’t get wasted when I was back in high school and participated in high school parties that had beer because I did. The fact of the matter is, they really aren’t in a position to argue much because they aren’t of proper age to actually do these things. That’s why there are laws prohibiting underage individuals obtain these substances because these laws had been crafted to prevent these monumentally idiotic incidents.

    Honestly, I’d love to side with the high school kids after seeing the major chunk of the readers bash them for their lack of better judgment. But really, after getting to read that reply posted by “STOYA 08-09”, I just found their stand completely and utterly retarded. Seriously, I don’t think that person even realized that he was already debunking his own arguments.

    All in all, I think those STOYA kids were better off if they just chose to shut their orifices than to try and reason out the way they did. It just put them in an even more unpleasant situation.

    1. @EJ,

      But really, after getting to read that reply posted by “STOYA 08-09?, I just found their stand completely and utterly retarded.


  6. @ EJ
    Couldn’t agree more. Because it happened at THEIR event, they have to bear a certain amount of responsibility and liability for any untoward incident that happens. Much like owners of clubs like Embassy get in hot water when a brawl happens in their premises. For the kids of STOYA to ‘wash their hands’ of this of this incident, is borderline criminal negligence and STUPID. My old man would always say ‘If it happens in your backyard, its your mess to clean up.’

    You do raise some valid points. This is far from being an isolated incident of adolescent foolishness. God knows that I and my friends also did our fair share of dumb things when we were younger. But can you really fault the mom from voicing out her anguish? She does have as much right as you and I to write a blog, make comments and react. If your looking for her logic or motivation for writing on her blog,it really quite simple: HER SON WAS BEATEN UP BY THUGS, in a party that was organized by kids HER SON WENT TO SCHOOL WITH.

    You are correct to say that the boy needs better friends, but the halfhearted stance that your brother and his friends took is also as bad the lack of action done by the boy’s friend. and that is exactly what is wrong not only with the kids of today, but with us as a society in general. I do agree that innocent kids are being victimized and dragged into this. The ‘onlookers’ like your brother didn’t hurt the boy. But they may as well have with the APATHETIC attitude that they’ve taken about what happened.

    Do not get me wrong, Camille. I have no beef with you or your brother, as well as the other bystanders at the event. I am not directing my anger and disgust towards any of you. I am directing it to the ORGANIZERS,for being so defiant and smug about their liability to the incident. If they can’t keep things in order, then they have NO BUSINESS TO BE EVEN HOSTING PARTIES.

    And most importantly, I’m directing my anger to the COWARDS who think that beating up a kid is something you can do for kicks. These kids are long overdue for some serious psychotherapy, and are due for a little ass whoopin’ of their own.

  7. The organizers of the event will ALWAYS have responsibility over what happens in their event. No contest with that. Stoya’s retort regarding the incident is what dragged them into the issue. The Mom only released her letter after Stoya released their blog. By trying to disregard the true gravity of the situation, Stoya unwittingly attracted the ire of the victim’s side (the boy is the victim, not Stoya or the Povedans or that depraved TGF). In a way, they opened Pandora’s Box and now it’s biting them where it hurts.

    The blame on Stoya is not for beating up the boy, nor their inane arguments to defend their ‘open party culture.’ The blame rests on the notion that these kids (and they are still kids — impulsive and immature) cannot or refuse to see their own contribution that eventually led to this twisted turn of events. By allowing themselves, and their peers, to be exposed to alcohol (and possibly other banned substances) at such an age, in an environment devoid of mature adult supervision, and in such a frequent manner, they have unknowingly crossed over the edge.

    There is always something worth saving, worth defending in any person or group, but, at least for now, Stoya is full of sh*t.

  8. @Enzo
    I’ve already said quite a mouthful. But you are dead-on in what you said: These kids are so full of it.

  9. @camille
    I must say, I wouldn’t be very proud if that were my brother’s reason for seeing someone getting beaten up by a crowd and not helping. The boy’s friends were scared, probably because the thugs were upperclassmen, but your brother was apathetic. That’s only one letter away from pathetic, mind you.
    Your whole idea of dealing with things quietly brings to mind larger crimes that go on in our country that go unpunished. No wonder the practice is so rampant, it’s pounded into us even at school. One would think those who do wrong would feel shame, not those who have been wronged and seek justice. But that’s what you are suggesting.
    Sorry, Kyle said what I wanted to say much more eloquently. I just had to get my two cents in.

  10. Kung me ulo sana, me age limit at security check pa para walang makapasok na basagulero. Kaso wala, kahit sino pasok para magwala.

    Nakakairita yung mga pa-gangsta-gangsta (maging dukha o koñyo — kopya lahat mula sa Amerika, mga marahas na wannabe) na akala mo karapatan nila na magpalakihan ng itlog, i-spray yung bakod ang initials ng clan o magkipag-rambulan para sa teritoryo kahit na maraming nadadamay na walang-muwang. Kahit na sa probinsya me rambulan pa!

    Taragis na panahon na ito, mabibilang ko na lang sa daliri ko kung ilang kabataan ang matino.

    Sa bandang huling pagsisisi, aanhin ba ang utak, kapag ang me hawak nito ang nasaksak?

  11. I just wanted to clarify something to everybody. I study in Ateneo and I know many of the people in the group called STOYA. Now, this incident happened in a party called “Lust”, which was organized by a group of junior Povedan girls, NOT by the group called STOYA. I think that the only reason why STOYA is being brought into this is because they merely organize SOME, not all open parties, ESPECIALLY NOT the party where Marcel got beaten up.

    I personally am disgusted at what happened to Marcel, truly. But I also can’t stand it when people blame STOYA for what happened just because people FALSELY think that this happened in one of STOYA’s parties.

  12. @EJ
    Actually, it didn’t happen in a STOYA event. It happened in a series of 7 parties named after the 7 sins which was organized by Junior Povedan girls.

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